The first tool when dealing with procrastination-- awareness.
Using your mind to govern your brain.
And I'm going to put a challenge to you. Whatever day you're listening to this podcast, I want you to see if you can separate yourself just a little bit from your procrastination.
Put your hand directly on your face. You can't see; you cannot be aware. But then, when you remove your hand from your face about a foot, well, you're in a place to observe your hand. You can see the lines. You can see the veins. And that is the place of power when starting to look at changing something.
Becoming aware of when you procrastinate and how you procrastinate.
Take your emotions out of your to-do list.
The second part of change is acceptance. Accept how you procrastinate.
Then we move to action.
This is when you need to start asking yourself, how bad do you want it?
"Do something today that you'll thank yourself for a year from now."
One of the things that I started...
Melody Beattie and her book, Language of Letting Go.
Spokes on a wheel metaphor
When you want to up your game, everybody else around you wants to keep the status quo.
Often, the people you love most and are the closest to you are the ones who are the least supportive and accepting of you wanting to achieve a whole new level.
The Bubble Suit:
In your bubble suit, you are loving and protecting yourself.
"And what is most important for me and what is most true for me."
When you want to up your game and achieve something that maybe you just haven't yet, but know in your gut and your heart you can do and you're working so hard, yet those people aren't supporting you.
And Melody Beattie says, "many of us have anger towards certain members of her...
Vulnerability is an actor's greatest asset in their work, but it's also the greatest liability outside of their work and in their business.
My own journey with vulnerability.
I felt that as an actor, I wore my heart on my sleeve. And although that really helped me in my work, I found it to be a real problem was when wasn’t getting a callback or I wasn't getting the job, and that it made it very, very difficult for me to live my own life.
The emotions must live in the work, and you have your own life.
Understand that the work is not yours. Once you do it, it is the world’s.
From The Language of Letting Go:
“So being vulnerable and quoting kind of little bits from melody, body and language of letting go is about learning to share ourselves with other people and...
We are dropping this podcast in honor of Mother’s Day but also on the actual day she gave birth to me!
Her Latest Cookbook
Advice: “When I’m stuck in a story, I talk to someone else.”
Keep doing what you’re doing and enjoy it!
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Work hard to keep your brain tight so your nasty messages in your brain don’t have power.
Having a relationship with their highest wisdom, that will help you solve all your problems.
“Hell no! I am not under any circumstances going to let this happen.”
Is this real or is this my ego?
“It is coming, it is baffling, it is powerful”
Take care of yourself and do what you set out to accomplish.
Feeling triggered by other people’s posts.
“Sometimes I feel social media affects my confidence or self-esteem, even though I know it's primarily used as a highlight reel. Some actors post every single audition they go on to Facebook or Instagram. Others post throwback photos from past shoots or opportunities that they've had. And it can trick us into thinking, Well, why am I not there yet? A good example for me is there was of another actor same age as me, kind of type wise, playing similar roles. You know, we're different, but we're not different kind of a thing. And you know, she has some really good credits on stage on film, and she also has the advantage of, you know, coming from, you know, people who have been in the business before. And she loves posting a lot. And sometimes, you know, I feel like, I don't know the answer to how I should be investing energy into social media and how...
“By working on your acting training, you become more qualified for better acting jobs.”
Core work--> so you can clean out the gunk that stands in the way of receiving opportunities that you have previously prevented yourself from receiving.
Matt Corboy Interview: “Don’t put me into the role; put the role into me.”
The chunk of ice metaphor.
Talent is undeniable.
Use your mind to govern your brain.
One baby step by one baby step.
How do I counteract that negative voice inside of me?
Practice contrary action.
One moment at a time, one minute at a time.
Affirmation: It is safe to look within
“My Life Doesn’t Work:
I never get to do what I want to do. I can’t please anyone. I don’t know what I want to do. There is never any time for me. My needs and desires are always left out. I’m only doing this to please them. I am just a doormat. Nobody cares what I want to do. I have no talent. I can’t do anything...
The Language of Letting Go:
“When I meet people or get in a new relationship, I start putting all these repressive restrictions on myself. I can't have my feelings, can't have my wants and needs, can't have my history, can't do the things I want, feel the feelings I'm feeling, or say what I need to say. I turn into this repressed, perfectionist robot instead of being who I am. Me.”
In auditions in the past, I would put restrictions, repressive restrictions on myself.
The fact of the matter is, I'm far more charming being imperfect.
If I am repressing myself and feeling like I can't have my wants in my needs, and I need to make this podcast absolutely perfect or, people aren't going to listen to it.
It’s actually the opposite.
When you have the courage to be yourself. You are magnetic, people are attracted to you.
Sometimes we feel like, “Oh,...
This is the miracle of Core Work: you can discover a new level of confidence, on a whole other level of self-assuredness, in a whole other level of the courage to be yourself.
The courage to be “Peter Pamela Rose,” and show the world who that is, and be totally delighted whether the reaction is, “oh, I love her”o r “oh no, thank you.”
That feeling of being alive and that feeling of utter gratitude for my love, for my life and for what I have, and for my future. And it's an incredible, incredible place to be.
You may be asking: Well, how do I get there?
Go back to some of my previous Core Work Lessons.
Energy Vampires= people who take away valuable energy you need to push past the things that are standing in the way of your dreams.
Level 10 energy
Who to watch out for: People who zap your energy.
How do we protect ourselves?
Other kinds of Vampires
Tips and tools:
Be kind to these people, if they could be doing better they would.