Listen to Episode 161: What Do You Want and How Do You Get it?
What you think, what you want, and what you do.
You need to train your brain to be more acute, more aware.
You want to handle your level 10 problems at level 10 energy.
How your Mindset works:
“Here is a breakdown of how your mindset works.”
We want a mindset that works 100% FOR us, not against us.
Excerpt from You Are a Badass at Making Money:
”Your beliefs are driving the bus. They take you where you’re going whether you’re paying attention or not.
Your thoughts are the tour guide, the person upfront with the microphone and the clipboard—she can lean over and yank the wheel, slam on the brakes, step on the gas, flip the bus—she can do whatever, whenever she wants. She usually works in harmony with your beliefs, but she has all the veto power.
Your words are the assistant to...
On a piece of paper make three columns:
Write it out as it is right now.
Ex in the first column: I want to be a working actor
In the second column: What is the first thing you think?
THIS IS JUST WHERE YOU ARE AT RIGHT NOW
THE GOOD NEWS IS THAT WHERE YOU ARE DOES NOT MATTER, WHAT MATTERS IS THAT YOU ARE REALLY HONEST IN THIS STEP.
Now move to the third column
What you do:
What you do to support it MATTERS. WE ARE JUST TAKING STOCK.
This is not a time to beat up on yourself.
Just taking note of the current situation.
Now we shift to where we want to be:
Talk about again what it is...
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When crazy times come up, I use these:
It’s not about doing it perfectly.
"Do not treat someone like a priority to treat you like an option."
"Anyone can eat an elephant one bite at a time."
"Whatever I put before taking care of myself I am going to lose."
"If you’re hysterical, it’s historical."
Trace it, face it, erase it.
December can feel like a sprint.
Take care of yourself first.
Understanding no is a complete sentence.
Sometimes being with certain people requires your number 10 energy. When you’re with them, you need to have number 10 energy to deal with the number 10 challenge.
It may be best to limit your time and exposure to them.
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What to get your reps for the holidays:
$25 gift is fine
Avoid food and alcohol
Who to give to:
What to get:
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie:
"There are many positive triggers that remind us of Christmas (or Hannukah): snow, decorations, songs, wrapped packages, a nativity scene, or a star, stockings hung on a fireplace. And these "triggers" can evoke in us the warm, nostalgic feelings of the holiday celebration.
There are other kinds of triggers, though, that may be less apparent and evoke different feelings and memories.
Our mind is like a powerful...
What is the fear of failure?
Just like the fear of success, the fear of failure is about taking responsibility, but it’s a little bit different.
The fear of success is about will I be able to handle that success and all that responsibilities when it happens.
With the fear of failure is will I be able to handle the responsibility that is in front of me now?
Will I be able to handle the success and the responsibility of what is in front of me now?
Remember you will never be given more than you can handle but you will be given more than you can control.
The fear is survivable.
You are not responsible for your first thought but you are responsible for your second.
When all the negative thoughts come like a freaking freight train, stop scaring yourself.
You can handle this.
Use your mind to govern your brain.
You are scaring yourself, and you need to understand why.
There is a part of you that is trying to keep you “safe” and comfortable.
No one ever ever EVER got...
When things are going well, feelings of unease can come up.
“You are not responsible for your first thought but you are responsible for your next thought.”
The fear of success is really more about the fear of responsibility that comes with being more successful.
Remember you will never be given than you can handle but you will be given more than you can control.
Whatever level you are at in your career now, it is essential for you to take responsibility and show up and do the things that make you scared.
Go just a bit beyond your comfort zone every day.
Go back to feeling good.
It’s ok to feel good.
“I want to feel good.”
“Give me the strength to feel good.”
I am willing to show up and take the responsibilities that are required for me to feel that success.
Do you scare yourself out of good feelings?
Do you find stuff to worry about?
Do you sabotage yourself out of feeling good?
We do this because the...
The problem is perfectionism is a good thing up to a point.
When it crosses that line of paralysis, the excitement burns off, or it becomes too late.
A story about learning imperfectly.
If I was trying to do it perfectly, this podcast wouldn’t exist.
When it's imperfect, it’s exactly the way it is meant to be.
Perfectionism is what stops me from getting the really important things done.
Every day you do three things that are towards your goal.
Allow yourself to be an imperfect person, and allowing yourself to show your imperfections to the world.
Allow yourself to be brave.
The process of being comfortable with yourself while you’re not doing it perfectly.
Learning to soothe yourself, when you get scared or uncomfortable.
Melody Beattie: The Language of Letting Go
"Many of us have someone in our life who challenges our ability to trust and care for ourselves.
When we hear that person’s voice or are in his or her presence, we may forget all we know about what is real, about how to own our power, about how to be direct, about what we know and believe to be true, about how important we are.
We give up our power to that person. The child in us gets hooked with a mixture of powerful feelings—love, fear, or anger. We may feel trapped, helpless, or so attracted that we can’t think straight. There may be a powerful tug-of-war going between feelings of anger and our need to be loved and accepted, or between our head and our heart.
We may be so enamored or intimidated that we revert to our belief that we can’t react or respond to this person any differently.
We get hooked.
We don’t have to stay under a spell.
We start by becoming aware of the people who hook us, and then...
In Outliers, Gladwell wrote, “10,000 hours is the magic number of greatness.”
Gladwell also said, “The point is simply that natural ability requires a huge investment of time in order to be made manifest.”
So Good They So Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport
“What makes ridiculously successful people so successful is that they are experts at practicing.”
Your goal needs to be supported by your wants and actions.
What are the things you are doing for your Acting Training, your Business Steps, and your Core Work?
Rigorously honest with yourself whether you can do more, or you need to stop?
Are you deliberately practicing your acting in your rehearsals?
Kevin Durant, “Hard work beats talent when talent fails to work hard.”
“It’s hard to play well, but it’s easy to work hard.”
Consistence, persistence, and determination.