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The Language of Letting Go:

“When I meet people or get in a new relationship, I start putting all these repressive restrictions on myself. I can't have my feelings, can't have my wants and needs, can't have my history, can't do the things I want, feel the feelings I'm feeling, or say what I need to say. I turn into this repressed, perfectionist robot instead of being who I am. Me.”

In auditions in the past, I would put restrictions, repressive restrictions on myself. 

• Don't laugh too hard. 
• Don't push
• Don’t flub.

The fact of the matter is, I'm far more charming being imperfect. 

If I am repressing myself and feeling like I can't have my wants in my needs, and I need to make this podcast absolutely perfect or, people aren't going to listen to it. 

It’s actually the opposite. 

When you have the courage to be yourself. You are magnetic, people are attracted to you.

Sometimes we feel like, “Oh, I’m going to be judged” or “What would they ...

This is the miracle of Core Work: you can discover a new level of confidence, on a whole other level of self-assuredness, in a whole other level of the courage to be yourself.

The courage to be “Peter Pamela Rose,” and show the world who that is, and be totally delighted whether the reaction is, “oh, I love her”o r “oh no, thank you.” 

That feeling of being alive and that feeling of utter gratitude for my love, for my life and for what I have, and for my future. And it's an incredible, incredible place to be. 

You may be asking: Well, how do I get there?

Go back to some of my previous Core Work Lessons.

• Listen to the episode, you can be at Whole Foods or, you know, walking down the street, listen to it once.
• Then go back when you're sitting at home or in a coffee shop and listen to it.  
• And write down the questions and take notes. 
• And when I ask Empowering Questions like, "why does this make me feel that way?"
• Set your timer for each question for 10 minutes. Just start
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Energy Vampires= people who take away valuable energy you need to push past the things that are standing in the way of your dreams.

Level 10 energy

Who to watch out for: People who zap your energy.

How do we protect ourselves?

• Put on an imaginary bubble suit.
• Their stuff does not need to affect you.
• You have the opportunity to arrive late and leave early.

Other kinds of Vampires

• Other Actors on set.
  • No is a complete sentence.
• People preying on the actors in the Industry.
• Family who is not supportive.

Tips and tools:

• Get the focus off of you
• No is a complete sentence
• Don't cosign on someone else’s drama
• Ask yourself, is this going to be a healthy thing to be involved in or unhealthy?
• Your life depends on deflecting the energy suckers
• Don’t treat someone like a priority who treats you like an option

Be kind to these people, if they could be doing better they would.

Fantasy can become a liability.

It can become a crutch, “one day I'll ______”

You keep pushing to the future and you don’t deal with the reality of what needs to happen NOW.

Spiral it out to get to the seed of what you really want.

• Why do you want to become an actor?
• Well, why do you love acting?
• Continue to break down the reason.
• Continue asking why.
• Then what is the reality for me around this want?

Once we unpack the fantasy, we can turn it into a reality

Fantasy can also destroy the good seed of why you want to do it.

It’s your ego. It takes away the beauty.

Ask yourself: How does my fantasy about becoming a famous actor, corrode my love for the art of acting?

Reality:

Every day we need to be doing actions that move us closer to our goal.

It’s hard work.

You need to focus on The Three Pillars:

1. Acting training
2. Business skills
3. Core work

Listen to Episode 161: What Do You Want and How Do You Get it?

What you think, what you want, and what you do.

You need to train your brain to be more acute, more aware.

You want to handle your level 10 problems at level 10 energy.

How your Mindset works:

• What is the function of your thoughts?
• What is the function of your emotions?
• Of your actions?

“Here is a breakdown of how your mindset works.”

We want a mindset that works 100% FOR us, not against us.

Excerpt from You Are a Badass at Making Money:

”Your beliefs are driving the bus. They take you where you’re going whether you’re paying attention or not. 

Your thoughts are the tour guide, the person upfront with the microphone and the clipboard—she can lean over and yank the wheel, slam on the brakes, step on the gas, flip the bus—she can do whatever, whenever she wants. She usually works in harmony with your beliefs, but she has all the veto power.

Your words are the assistant to your thoughts and beliefs. Your wo...

Exercise:

On a piece of paper make three columns:

1. What you Want
2. What you Think
3. Action

Write it out as it is right now. 

Ex in the first column: I want to be a working actor 

In the second column: What is the first thing you think?

• Be rigorously honest here
• Are you thinking I’m not good enough?
• Are you thinking I’m going to kill it?
• Use your mind to govern your brain

THIS IS JUST WHERE YOU ARE AT RIGHT NOW

THE GOOD NEWS IS THAT WHERE YOU ARE DOES NOT MATTER, WHAT MATTERS IS THAT YOU ARE REALLY HONEST IN THIS STEP.

Now move to the third column

What you do:

• Do you only do actions for your acting career when you feel like it?
• Do you fantasize more than doing something about it?
• Do you stay or do you pivot when things aren’t working?

What you do to support it MATTERS. WE ARE JUST TAKING STOCK.

This is not a time to beat up on yourself.

Just taking note of the current situation.

Now we shift to where we want to be:

Talk about again what it is we want. As...

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When crazy times come up, I use these:

• This too shall pass
• Exercise
• Nice cups of tea or coffee
• Eat regularly
• Nice blanket
• Keeping close with the energy that knows best
• Inviting that energy into my day
• Keeping as physically, mentally, spiritually fit as I can

It’s not about doing it perfectly.

"Do not treat someone like a priority to treat you like an option."

"Anyone can eat an elephant one bite at a time."

"Whatever I put before taking care of myself I am going to lose."

"If you’re hysterical, it’s historical."

Trace it, face it, erase it.

Check out classes for January!

December can feel like a sprint.

Take care of yourself first.

Understanding no is a complete sentence.

Sometimes being with certain people requires your number 10 energy. When you’re with them, you need to have number 10 energy to deal with the number 10 challenge.

It may be best to limit your time and exposure to them.

1. Dealing with your feelings but try not to dwell unduly on them
2. Allow yourself to just be in the day
3. There may be some holiday backlash
4. It’s ok because we're all doing the best we can at the moment
5. Allow yourself to embrace and be with the love that IS available

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What to get your reps for the holidays:

$25 gift is fine

Avoid food and alcohol

Who to give to:

• Casting Director who you’ve booked a few jobs through over the years
• Agent and/or Manager
• Casting Director Agent or Manager who you’ve gotten a lot of stuff through get something a little more expensive

What to get:

• Movie Tickets
• Amazon Gift Card
• Find out if they like something
• Favorite restaurant
• Donate to a charity
• Flowers

Holiday Triggers:

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie:

"There are many positive triggers that remind us of Christmas (or Hannukah): snow, decorations, songs, wrapped packages, a nativity scene, or a star, stockings hung on a fireplace. And these "triggers" can evoke in us the warm, nostalgic feelings of the holiday celebration.

There are other kinds of triggers, though, that may be less apparent and evoke different feelings and memories.

Our mind is like a powe...

What is the fear of failure?

Just like the fear of success, the fear of failure is about taking responsibility, but it’s a little bit different.

The fear of success is about will I be able to handle that success and all that responsibilities when it happens.

With the fear of failure is will I be able to handle the responsibility that is in front of me now?

Will I be able to handle the success and the responsibility of what is in front of me now?

Remember you will never be given more than you can handle but you will be given more than you can control.

The fear is survivable.

You are not responsible for your first thought but you are responsible for your second.

When all the negative thoughts come like a freaking freight train, stop scaring yourself.

You can handle this.

Use your mind to govern your brain.

You are scaring yourself, and you need to understand why.

There is a part of you that is trying to keep you “safe” and comfortable.

No one ever ever EVER got successful...