The Acting Business Boot Camp Podcast

What is holding you back? 

Anger towards the Industry.

When you have felt like:

• Well, maybe this isn't for me
• It seems to be a club that I can't get into.
• Or it feels like everybody who has any power hates me.
• And how can I want something so badly but not be accepted into that club?
• What is wrong with me?
• Am I defective?
• Am I not good enough?

And all of that can sometimes lead to a tremendous amount of anger. And there's nothing wrong with anger. Anger is just an emotion.

I'll let you in on a secret: It doesn't kill you. It's survivable. Anger, confrontation, all of it is survivable.

From the book Courage to Change.

"It seems to me that many of us deal with our anger in inappropriate ways, denying it, we stuff it, or we go off in a fury directing the feelings outward. I, for one, opt for avoidance of any conflict, and then I turn into a doormat." 

Learning how to deal with anger.

• Learning how to set a boundary.
• Write down your feelings.
• It's taking the heat ou
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The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beatty.

“How sick and tired we may have become of people telling us to be patient or learn patience.

 How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something or to move forward and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met. And we're in the midst of anxiety, frustration, and inaction.”

Anxiety is always about fear of the future. And in terms of patience, it's, of course, that we're afraid it will never happen.

Working actors take the action and let go of the result. And our patient.

“Well, maybe it'll never happen. Maybe. It won't happen for me.”

If we can turn that energy of frustration into action as opposed to inaction

The lowest form of energy is victim. It's where we feel we can't do anything. We're totally powerless.

You can use your patience and feel the patience.

We want to move fr...

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I just don't have time to get sick!

How I deal with overwhelm.

• Get grateful
• Ask, is that something that I actually want in my life?
• Remember, "No is a complete sentence."
• Another way I deal with overwhelm is excellent time management.

So the first thing about overwhelm is this. Again, if you're overwhelmed, look at what you're overwhelmed with.

So I've got two choices. One, I can choose to eliminate something I really want to, or I can fucking deal.

Take your emotions out of your to-do list.

Overwhelm is about avoiding doing the things that, if I did them, I wouldn't be overwhelmed. 

I get overwhelmed because I'm spending so much emotional energy and emotional time not doing the thing that if I just did it, it would help me to feel less overwhelmed. 

"Feeling overwhelmed isn't surprising. Being surprised about it is." 

The feelings of overwhelm go hand-in-hand with anxiety.

The fact of the matter is, is that we will never be given m...

The first tool when dealing with procrastination-- awareness.

Using your mind to govern your brain. 

And I'm going to put a challenge to you. Whatever day you're listening to this podcast, I want you to see if you can separate yourself just a little bit from your procrastination.

Put your hand directly on your face. You can't see; you cannot be aware. But then, when you remove your hand from your face about a foot, well, you're in a place to observe your hand. You can see the lines. You can see the veins. And that is the place of power when starting to look at changing something. 

Becoming aware of when you procrastinate and how you procrastinate.

Take your emotions out of your to-do list. 

The second part of change is acceptance. Accept how you procrastinate.

Then we move to action.

This is when you need to start asking yourself, how bad do you want it?

"Do something today that you'll thank yourself for a year from now."

One of the things that I started to look at was ...

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Melody Beattie and her book, Language of Letting Go. 

Spokes on a wheel metaphor

When you want to up your game, everybody else around you wants to keep the status quo. 

Often, the people you love most and are the closest to you are the ones who are the least supportive and accepting of you wanting to achieve a whole new level. 

The Bubble Suit:

• going into difficult work situations 
• friendship situations 
• situations when it's not totally comfortable saying, but you need to speak your Truth. 

In your bubble suit, you are loving and protecting yourself. 

"And what is most important for me and what is most true for me." 

When you want to up your game and achieve something that maybe you just haven't yet, but know in your gut and your heart you can do and you're working so hard, yet those people aren't supporting you. 

And Melody Beattie says, "many of us have anger towards certain members of her family. Some of us have much anger a...

Vulnerability is an actor's greatest asset in their work, but it's also the greatest liability outside of their work and in their business. 

My own journey with vulnerability.

I felt that as an actor, I wore my heart on my sleeve. And although that really helped me in my work, I found it to be a real problem was when wasn’t getting a callback or I wasn't getting the job, and that it made it very, very difficult for me to live my own life. 

The emotions must live in the work, and you have your own life.

CORE WORK:

• Go to the core work episodes, listen once, then go to a coffee shop, listen, pause and journal.
• You must feel safe going to those emotional places, then leave it in the work.

Understand that the work is not yours. Once you do it, it is the world’s.

From The Language of Letting Go:

“So being vulnerable and quoting kind of little bits from melody, body and language of letting go is about learning to share ourselves with other people and learning to admit our mist...

We are dropping this podcast in honor of Mother’s Day but also on the actual day she gave birth to me!

Food, Drink, and Celebrations of the Hudson Valley Dutch (American Palate)

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Advice: “When I’m stuck in a story, I talk to someone else.”

Keep doing what you’re doing and enjoy it!

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Work hard to keep your brain tight so your nasty messages in your brain don’t have power.

Having a relationship with their highest wisdom, that will help you solve all your problems.

“Hell no! I am not under any circumstances going to let this happen.”

Is this real or is this my ego?

“It is coming, it is baffling, it is powerful”

Take care of yourself and do what you set out to accomplish.

Managing Emotions 

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Monologues with Andrew Dolan

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Feeling triggered by other people’s posts.

“Sometimes I feel social media affects my confidence or self-esteem, even though I know it's primarily used as a highlight reel. Some actors post every single audition they go on to Facebook or Instagram. Others post throwback photos from past shoots or opportunities that they've had. And it can trick us into thinking, Well, why am I not there yet? A good example for me is there was of another actor same age as me, kind of type wise, playing similar roles. You know, we're different, but we're not different kind of a thing. And you know, she has some really good credits on stage on film, and she also has the advantage of, you know, coming from, you know, people who have been in the business before. And she loves posting a lot. And sometimes, you know, I feel like, I don't know the answer to how I should be investing energy into social media and how much, you kn...

“By working on your acting training, you become more qualified for better acting jobs.”

Core work--> so you can clean out the gunk that stands in the way of receiving opportunities that you have previously prevented yourself from receiving.

Matt Corboy Interview: “Don’t put me into the role; put the role into me.”

The chunk of ice metaphor.

Talent is undeniable.

Use your mind to govern your brain.

One baby step by one baby step.

How do I counteract that negative voice inside of me?

Practice contrary action.

One moment at a time, one minute at a time.

Louis Haye:

Affirmation: It is safe to look within

“My Life Doesn’t Work:

I never get to do what I want to do. I can’t please anyone. I don’t know what I want to do. There is never any time for me. My needs and desires are always left out. I’m only doing this to please them. I am just a doormat. Nobody cares what I want to do. I have no talent. I can’t do anything right. All I do is procrastinate. Nothing ever works for me,...