Episode 378: You Missed the Call And That Was the Job

The Thing Nobody Wants to Say Out Loud

I get ghosted. A lot.

Free consults, strategy calls, portfolio reviews. People who asked, people who booked, people who confirmed. And then? Nothing. No email. No reschedule. No apology. Just a no-show.

This episode isn't about shame. It's about an honest question: if you're skipping the low-stakes stuff, what happens when the stakes are actually high?

What Ghosting a Free Call Really Costs You

It's easy to tell yourself a missed consult doesn't matter. It's free. It's casual. It's not an audition.

But here's the thing. It kind of is.

Every commitment you make, even a small one, is a chance to practice being the kind of professional people want to work with. Casting directors don't see your intentions. Agents don't feel your potential. Clients don't care how overwhelmed you are. They experience your behavior. And if your behavior says "unreliable," that's what sticks.

Missed calls. Unsubmitted emails. Deadlines that slipped. Relationships that quietly went cold. None of these feel like a big break moment. But they add up. And six months later, when things feel slow, this is often why.

Disorganization Is Not a Personality Type

Being bad at time management is not a creative badge. Being bad at email is not a quirk. These are systems problems. And systems can be fixed.

You don't need a $40 productivity app. You need a calendar, a reminder system, and one place where all your commitments live. That's it. I have ADHD. I know firsthand how hard this can be. And I also know it can be done.

Memory is unreliable. Systems aren't.

The Homework (Yes, There Is Homework)

Here's a practical reset you can start today.

Audit your commitments. Write down everything you've said yes to this month. Every single thing. Then cancel what you genuinely can't honor, and cancel it cleanly. Don't ghost it.

Pick one system and actually use it. Google Calendar, iCal, a paper notebook. One place. Set reminders like you don't trust yourself, because right now, maybe you shouldn't.

Practice showing up early. Early is calm. Early is professional. Early is power. I grew up hearing: if you're 15 minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late. If you're late, you're fired. That habit has saved my career more times than I can count.

The Real Question

Can you be trusted to do your job?

Not talent. Not range. Not training or demos or headshots. Can people trust you to show up, follow through, and be where you said you'd be?

If the answer is no right now, that's okay. Give yourself some grace. But start today. Because no one is coming to rescue your career.

You don't need rescuing. You need structure.

Talent opens doors. Reliability keeps them open.

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