Episode 365: How to Handle Difficult Family Members Over the Holidays

Family gatherings can be beautiful. They can also feel like emotional landmines, especially when you’re an actor. One minute you’re passing the mashed potatoes. The next you’re answering a pointed question about your career from someone who hasn’t watched a show since 1998.

In this week’s episode of the Acting Business Bootcamp Podcast, I talk about how to stay calm, centered, and grounded as you navigate family dynamics. These tools help you protect your energy so you can enjoy the holiday instead of getting swept up in other people’s anxieties.

The Question Doesn’t Require a Monologue

A lot of actors feel pressured to explain themselves. To defend their choices. To prove they’re on the right track.

But you don’t owe anyone an emotional TED Talk over stuffing.

A simple, steady answer is enough.

“It’s going well. Thank you.”

That one sentence keeps you out of conversations you don’t need to be in. You get to keep your peace. You get to protect your space.

If someone pushes, you can set a gentle boundary.
“I have a few things moving, I’ll share when I’m ready.”

Short. Clear. Done.

Their Anxiety Doesn’t Belong to You

So often the loudest questions are really about someone else’s fears. Their need for certainty. Their discomfort with ambiguity.

You don’t have to take that on.

Let their energy stay with them. You return to your own center. Your own path. Your own truth.

Anchor Yourself Before You Walk In

A holiday gathering is like an unexpected audition. A little preparation goes a long way.

Take a few quiet minutes in the car before going inside. Ground your breath. Remember the work you’ve done. Remember what you’re building. Even the smallest wins matter.

This simple pause strengthens you more than you think.

Use The Bathroom as Your Backstage

If you feel yourself getting wobbly, step away. Close the door. Breathe.

One minute is enough to reset your nervous system.

Here’s an affirmation I love for holiday gatherings:

“I am my own authority. I love and approve of myself. Life is good.”

Say it until your shoulders drop.

Movement Clears Emotional Static

Sometimes the easiest way to break emotional noise is to move your body.

A short walk around the block. A quick step outside. Offering to run to the store. Even a loop around the backyard.

Think of it as an intermission in the middle of the holiday play.

Grace Beats Defensiveness

If someone brings up the state of the industry or questions your path, gently redirect.

“Things are moving. I’m focused on the work. How are you doing?”

It shifts the spotlight off you. It softens the moment. It keeps the energy human.

Curiosity Transforms the Room

People want to be seen. When you become curious about them, the dynamic changes.

Ask how their year has been. Ask a follow-up. Then another.

When you listen deeply, conversations soften. Walls come down. You return to connection, not conflict.

A Final Reminder

Your career is not defined by anyone’s holiday opinion. You get to be your own authority. You get to choose peace.

And if family stress gets loud this year, you’re not alone.

Join the “Listening to Invisible Guidance” Class

If you’ve been feeling lost, stuck, or unsure of your next step, I created a one hour class called Listening to Invisible Guidance.

It teaches you how to notice the quiet nudges, how to ask for support, and how to actually hear the signs that are already showing up for you. You’ll learn why doubt doesn’t block guidance and why disruption can be a sign that you’re being redirected, not punished.

It’s simple. It’s powerful. And it’s only $20.

You can watch it as many times as you want.

👉 Get the class. It’s one hour, twenty dollars, and it will help you find clarity.

If you need support this holiday season, send me a quiet message. I’m here.